When you forgive you heal…..and when you let go you grow.

Life is short!

Break the rules. Forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably and never regret anything that makes you smile!

Forgive yourself. If you could have done better, you would have.

Focus more on the people who inspire you than the people who annoy you…..even if it’s just for today!

Be willing to go alone sometimes. Not everyone who started with you will finish with you and that’s okay.

Let go of comparing

Let go of competing

Let go of judgement

Let go of anger

Let go of regrets

Let go of worrying

Let go of blame

Let go of guilt

Let go of fear

Have a good belly laugh at least once a day (especially if it’s about your inability to let go of any of the above!)

 

Fear of Rejection

Fear of rejection is different than the other fears listed in our previous posts because it is a compilation of all them. It is our natural tendency to want to belong, to be a part of something bigger than ourselves.

And even though we want to belong, we get nervous at the thought of being abandoned, ridiculed, or isolated. We fear being alone and in pain.

Whether being rejected for a job or by someone you love, being told no hurts. It is that fear that can prevent us from realising our true potential because we avoid taking chances.

The Fix

Understanding your feelings is important to move through this fear. There is no other way to overcome it than to stop avoiding action and taking it. Getting to the yes is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the more likely you will get a yes

Fear of Being Alone

The fear of being alone stems from wanting love. To avoid it, we spend countless hours on social networks, we overschedule our days, and we are constantly on the go.

We are surrounded by people all day but without meaningful relationships in our lives, we might as well be alone. And that is a scary prospect.

The Fix

Foster the relationships that mean the most to you including the relationship with yourself. Sit quietly and alone for a few minutes every day. Get to know who you are, knowing when you get comfortable spending time with yourself, you will never fear being alone again. In fact, you might just begin to crave more of it.

Fear of Embarrassment

Being embarrassed is a response to our need of perfection. It is impossible to be perfect but for some reason it is still something we still want.

We know in our head that making mistakes is part of life but when we disappoint people that matter, we feel all sorts of emotions including embarrassment. And the thing is, the people that matter are most likely just proud of our efforts.

The Fix

Learn to laugh at yourself. Laughing at yourself is a pre-emptive strike against feeling embarrassed. Know that things will not go perfectly and expect that they won’t. You won’t get embarrassed when prepared for less than perfect results. Instead, you will be ready to try again

Fear of emotional pain

It’s impossible to go through life without pain. The fear of being hurt can prevent us from opening our hearts to the greatest feeling of all – love. You shouldn’t let your fears stop you from doing the things that will make your life richer.

The problem with experiencing pain comes not from the pain itself, but our decision to hide from it.

The Fix

Stop making “being happy” the goal because that will move you further from happiness. When you choose not to action because the result might end up making you feel bad, you aren’t allowing yourself to experience life. The only way to stop fearing emotional pain is to allow it in. When you do, your happy times will be even happier.